I wasn’t going to mention my exclusion of sex. because the FACT is I met my inner guru whilst in a very normal happy marriage, children etc so I know it is irrelevant whether you do have sex, or not, because you can still meet him. The problem as I mentioned is keeping him actively walking with you, for ever.say.??
I remember reading in the Surangama Sutra, which was a translation of part of it by Author Charles Luk (I like his work) I hope my memory is correct on this but is seems to suggest different levels that one attains in life on different levels.
It mentions sex and seems to suggest that one should pay little attention to the act of sex, before and after… Its the thinking, desire of it I suppose, that is a hindrance to Spiritual progression, just like many many many other things seem to be.
It is the reduction of unnecessary thoughts that improves Spiritual progression.
So if your approach to it is just the fun and pleasure of the moment then I think that is right. I am older now and chose to take this route of no sex to attain a higher level.
You have plenty of time.
I will email you Karlie…please question what I have written, I am just like you, a pursuer of the truth, I may not be right in what I have put, you must decide for yourself.
Kind Regards Kareng
Ps…28/29/30 is a very very spiritually significant time. If you practice now, your practice will be more fruitful in expereinces.