@ City Monk
I don’t mean to offend you - i hope my words are not too harsh - but the truth (and I accept that I may be completely wrong) is often hard to hear.
You say it’s egoistic to “let others struggle”.
I say it’s more egoistic to think that you hold the key to their ‘redemption’. Marriage / relationship should be a celebration and a partnership, not a struggle in which one person’s lifestyle battles with another’s. Unless you choose that of course…
In my experience I have seen that 90% of the time, when people stay in dysfunctional relationships trying to ‘change’ the other person, “getting them into” yoga, or religion, or anything else, it’s because they NEED that dysfunctional relationship to give them a sense of self. They choose dysfunction because that is what they know - how much is your choice influenced by your experience as a child: probably 100%.
This is often a kind of subtle addiction.
If on the other hand you truly can find peace within your relationship with your husband; if you can be truly happy within yourself, even amidst the turmoil of
[I]“very hard to keep my lifestyle and diet with ignorant person in the house. and very upsetting that you do not have soul mate in your husband…”[/I]
then I take my hat off to you. But I have found that 21st century life is hard enough without living with someone whose lifestyle opposes yours.
Therefore I advise my students to make things easy for themselves when it comes to relationship. It’s not out of ego, I assure you.