[quote=Karin;4337]
Well, I don’t believe too much in that (my boyfriend doesn’t seem to suffer … and isn’t it natural? How could humans survive without?) and men also tell that it’s possible to have orgasm without ejaculation.
[/quote] Most religions (spiritual ways) state celibacy as a requirement. It is easier this way. This is not a requirement for householders but for those who decided to follow a strict discipline in order to advance faster. As such, this is not natural. Following a spiritual way is not natural. If it would be, everyone would be saints. Following a spiritual way takes you beyond the natural, to supernatural.
Well. Women have to understand that most men have sex instead of making love. Having sex is detrimental because it is mostly a physical experience. For most men having an orgasm and ejaculating is the same, while in reality it should not be so. Having an orgasm is a mental-emotional experience, ejaculation is physical. In fact making love should combine both aspects. Male physiologic sexuality is erruptive, fast and exhausting. This is natural. Our physical bodies are animal bodies. When an animal mates, it makes every effort to succeed in procreation, ensuring the survival of the race. Time is short. There are rivals. There are predators. But animals are wise. They have mating periods, so they have time to recover.
The tragedy of todays male consist in the confusion of sex with making love. He also confuses quantity over quality. A person I know confessed to me that he had an extra marital affair. He had sex both at home and with his mistress. He had sex several times a day, until his “orgasms” went dry. He lost 7 kilos in a few months, neglected his job, and ruined his health to a level from he did not come back even now, a year later.
My point is, that men learn very soon how to have a physical orgasm, and because of this their development on emotional and mental levels of lovemaking might suffer. Men are also wired differently. We are much easier aroused and able to have sex without emotional involvement. So we have to be careful. Being careful might mean a lot, but for me it means making love any time my partner or I want, but ejaculating only when I want. This is easier if one has a strong relationship. Of course all this should apply to every men who takes hmself seriously.
I don’t know about bindu, but If I have sex, I lose self awarness, vigor, I feel empty and I also feel alone. Making love with orgasm and ejaculation is also tiring but most of the time you get some of your losses back, feeling gratitude, love, and oneness with your beloved. Making love can also be a spiritual experience … but because it is rarely the case, and this way has so many traps where the disciple can fall, the recommandation of celibacy is easily understandable.
True. Except that I would be not that harsh on the old scriptures. 
But seriously. While opinions might be many, some laws apply to everyone. Like we are all born, and we all die, we all are men or women, we all eat, mate, love and hate. You are right about written things. That’s why I spoke from personal experience.
You might not experience the bliss of an intimate relationship with another human being. But you might experience the bliss of an intimate relationship with something else.
[quote=Karin;4337]
Of course doing extensively yoga and meditation can give you a lot. But I think many people use it also as an escape from live itself.[/quote]
Doing extensively yoga and meditation - yoga and meditation should not be separate things. In fact, life and yoga should not be separate things.
But you are again right here. Maybe some of us try to escape life because it proved to be hard, we were not that successful, and we need time to recover. There are so many examples of celibate men who after a short time of spiritual journey realised it’s not what they want or need and got back to a worldly life. Even so, everyone has the right to make his/her own decisions. The only thing we have to be faithful to is ourselves.
