Any yoga exercises for this?

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#1

Hi all,

I am working on my personal issues, over thinking, that sort of thing. I want to be more confident, more masculine and more attractive to women in terms of the energy/aura I give off. I understand a lot of what we think and feel is energy based and want some poses or exercises that can aid in clearing out the negative energy and transmuting this into something positive that flows through and out of me. Presence would be a good choice of word.

What would you recommend I do? I have been recommended to do shaking exercises which is where you let your legs shake by themselves for a long time.

Thanks!

#2

Adho Mukha Vrksasana
Imho
Cheers

#4

I’m not sure asanas are appropriate response to your needs. From what you write I gather its more self valuation problem. First thought that comes to my mind is that real confidence comes from valuing yourself for who you are. This confidence is not conditional on some traits or feedback from others. And it can’t be substituted by “external” patches that we try apply to ourselves.

And in terms of relationships: if I don’t feel confident and start going to gym, get fancy clothes, car, apply some “personal power” techniques - my value in relationship will be based on those things and deep inside I will still feel that I’m not valuable and attractive person…

So I would say: first accept and value yourself and then do “power asanas” (or better: weightlifting or martial sports).

#6

Very reasonable remarks Siro.

I would reply like that:

On a fundamental level love should be unconditional. No matter what faults you have or what have you done.

However active expression of love should be conditional. If an action comes out of love (which I understand as decision and effort directed towards growth,development and happiness) it should be conditioned with regards to current situation.

Both aspects should be present. I have impression Magnatolia has active component in place (already making effort) but I also have impression that first one may need some work.

#7

Hi Magnatolia,

I don’t know what is the relationship between being muscular and confidence. If you want to feel muscular then you should head to other physical activities such as weight lifting.

Regarding confidence, yoga poses require a strong posture which inspires physical authority and increases confidence.

Meditation after a yoga session will help lock in your new found confidence into your mind.

The more often you practice yogic poses, breathing and meditation, the more your natural confidence will improve.

#8

Thanks guys.

Fixed, thanks for the recommendation. will look into it.

Pawel and Siro, I am aware that asanas are not a magical tool that will make it easy for me. I’m reading forums, looking for learnings that will offer insight into different possibilities. One such thing was that I read an article about breaking tension when interacting with people, especially women, made me realise I do this a lot.

Siro, can you explain how meditation does these things? I was doing a 10 minute guided meditation for about 1-2 months and other than an obvious relaxed feeling afterwards nothing really changed. Okay that’s not true, the things are the forefront of my conscious were impacted but all of the stuff that is deep-seated ie. automated such as the fact that when a female friend looks at me for longer than a normal cursory glance (and we’re not already engaged in an interaction) I can’t hold the contact for fear that it will cause a negative reaction which will have social consequences for me. Now that’s just a translation of a reaction to a moment in time of course.

Paul, I didn’t mention anything about muscles or fitness. Can you offer an insight into the correlation between confidence and yoga poses, meditation etc?

I saw a yoga pose that is supposed to increase the energy and magnetism of the aura. It’s called eagle pose, you have hands raised with thumbs up and do the fire of breath. I did this for 2 minutes this morning and noticed a definite buzzing feeling.

Thanks!

#10

[QUOTE=Magnatolia;80161] Paul, I didn’t mention anything about muscles or fitness. Can you offer an insight into the correlation between confidence and yoga poses, meditation etc?
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I don’t have any specific insight regarding correlation between confidence and yoga/meditation. But I have some regarding muscles or fitness. I used to go to gym and practice weightlifting for few years. I remember at beginning I felt very uncomfortable, being thin and surrounded by muscular guys (and girls :slight_smile: ). I had thoughts along the lines “they are so muscular but probably dumb” - so it was clear compensation and suggestion that there was something I disowned in myself. After some time when I got more experienced and strong two new things appeared: feeling of being strong which was sort of “physical confidence” (difficult to explain now, but its like my body took the space and felt good with it) and loss of judgmental attitude towards muscular guys which was replaced with familiarity. So for me it was a lesson of claiming back what I disowned. I think sensitive men often reject this aspect of themselves (due to fear, judgement, or a need to feel better when confronted with it) and its a pity because its an obstacle in development.