Crush on Yoga Teacher

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#13

That was supposed to say an ‘eyes closed’ class.

Hi Arianne, How this happened is personal and complicated, but I will share even if it’s just to help me gain a deeper understanding of the whole situation.

To start, they opened the door to insight. Personal obstacles I have been aware of but had my head buried in the sand for years. The physical Yoga practice allows me to clear my mind and clear tension associated with years of negative thinking. They display compassion, empathy, understanding, Personal struggle, humility, knowledge, energy, hard work, progress, happiness, selflessness, love, a shared affinity for the beauty of nature, sense of humor, a desire to make a difference with this short life. As well as exhibiting incredible body control which come hand in hand with having a great bod.

It’s hardly surprising I crave Proximity. They are beautiful to me. But It doesnt mean I’m going to try and sleep with them. I just need to control the extremities of my emotions.

This doesn’t really explain the emotional/physical/metaphysical dynamics of my Yoga experience but I’ve tried to put it

#14

Into Words. X

#15

After 12 months of working through this it came to pass that I have quite simply realised the love for my teacher and have never been closer to ‘God’ however you choose to perceive the meaning of the word. No sooner had i come to realise this, they announced a change of circumstances for them which will directly affect my position as a student. The path ahead is unknown but the path has never been so clear. As for my my much loved Teacher, the Universe and my inner Guru, I thank you. I will strive to be happy and will do all I can light others paths along the way. Namaste. X

#16

Read the Yama niyama it is part of yoga too
Cheers
It is natural to have deep respect for your teacher but leave it there
many mistake teachers kindness and eagerness to help for more than it is imho
Cheers

#17

All of this an no reply from the OP?

#18

[QUOTE=InnerAthlete;81646]All of this an no reply from the OP?[/QUOTE]

Wife read it
Cheers :slight_smile:

#19

[QUOTE=Fixed;81647]Wife read it
Cheers :)[/QUOTE]

Possibly Fixed! I think the majority of us somewhere along lifes journey develop crushes on our teachers. I had a huge crush on a college professor who was much older than me. There is just something hot about teacher/student relationships. Anyway my attraction faded when the class was over. It passed and nothing happened :slight_smile:

#20

I recognize that the OP may not be following this, but I think it?s a valuable discussion anyhow. :slight_smile:

In my opinion most students go through this at some time or another. Yoga opens the heart and I believe that when we experience feelings of love or attraction to our teacher, we are doing what psychologists call transference. We are transferring the inner love that is arising from the practice and transferring it to the teacher.

My advice would be to keep the focus within and to realize that the feelings of love/closeness/attraction that we have, are actually a reflection of ourselves… our SELF.

#21

Interesting perspective. I have another.
The desire for another person, be it the teacher or the neighbor, is a vocalization of pelvic or vital force, not the heart.

The vocalization from the heart is the vocalization of the spirit and therefore interconnected to svadharma, one’s purpose for being here. Very different (to me) than a fantasy or crush.

#22

Mostly everyone is looking to be happy and when we interact with someone quite often a crush can happen mainly due to a belief that we will be more happy not being alone it can also be driven out of desire. And yes it will feel good not being alone but still in the end we will suffer as relationships are impermanent. This is not genuine love but selfish, nothing wrong though with having a partner.

So out of ignorance we search for a partner thinking it will make us happy, then after a while we need a new thing to buy to make us happy. This is how our mind works.

#23

It’s all happening so quickly right now. I have several teachers with whom I feel an immense connection. It feels as if out paths are bound. It sometimes feels as if I’m making this up or imagining it but too many things are materialising. Maybe it’s that I don’t want for much so it appears the law of attraction is very generous to me. I know for sure though that what I have received is so much more than what my heart desired. X

#24

Interesting perspective. I have another.
The desire for another person, be it the teacher or the neighbor, is a vocalization of pelvic or vital force, not the heart.

The vocalization from the heart is the vocalization of the spirit and therefore interconnected to svadharma, one’s purpose for being here. Very different (to me) than a fantasy or crush.

If the feeling is desire, then yes I would agree wholeheartedly. If the feeling is indeed love, then I still feel it comes from the heart. Either way the emotion is a reflection that has arisen through the practice.

I think its important for practioners to realise that during our yoga practice (asanas, pranayama, meditation…) many things may surface. Its a natural part of the practice. I’ve seen students get up off the mat filled with anger… and for no logical reason. I’ve had this happen to myself too, until a teacher helped me see that this is not connected to anything outside of ourselves… the practice has stimulated a release and we need to just observe and let it go with the breath.

Its easy to forget that we are doing so much more than just stretching when we practice yoga.

#25

[QUOTE=Narayani 108;81736]If the feeling is desire, then yes I would agree wholeheartedly. If the feeling is indeed love, then I still feel it comes from the heart. Either way the emotion is a reflection that has arisen through the practice.

I think its important for practioners to realise that during our yoga practice (asanas, pranayama, meditation…) many things may surface. Its a natural part of the practice. I’ve seen students get up off the mat filled with anger… and for no logical reason. I’ve had this happen to myself too, until a teacher helped me see that this is not connected to anything outside of ourselves… the practice has stimulated a release and we need to just observe and let it go with the breath.

Its easy to forget that we are doing so much more than just stretching when we practice yoga.[/QUOTE]
Emotions do surface just Friday a lady practicing next to me started crying during practice ,I asked if she was ok after class she said she felt so much joy she started crying , I myself have felt so happy in class I laughed out out more than once , cheers

#26

I love my teacher she is very beautiful inside and out .
We did a couple meditation where you sit in front of each other hands on each others heart the open your eyes and gaze into each others eyes ,
She asked me what I thought I said …our breathing was one our hearts were one we were one … It was like making love without the sex …
Cheers

#27

I just don’t know where to turn. I have no right to feel so strongly about this person. It’s equally causing as much harm to myself as my loved ones. I’ve had to tell them that I’m feeling such emotion and they appear to be going through the same turmoil or addiction to this energy as me. Whether it’s mutual is irrelevant in some respects. I’m plagued by the irony of duality. I know I could shut this energy down and bury it, I could transform it into art, I could still it, would I be denying the very things that make this life so beautiful. If I master it is it not just a more powerful form of ego?

#28

I’m starting to wonder why not just surrender. Afterall, how much of a say in the grand scheme of things do we really have.

#29

I understand if I were not 26 years older than my teacher I would pursue my feelings
It is maya ,the beautiful teacher we see in our mind is our creation ,your teacher has the same problems we all have .yoga makes everything beautiful ,me i am just the essentric older guy that has a crush on his teacher I also have a crush on life ,my teacher knows how I feel ( she could tell my life’s story just by looking at my feet after gazing into each others eyes in mediation there was nothing for me to say that she did not already know ), I am always there to help and support ,I think it is only natural to feel these things when you have a beautiful loving ,caring teacher

Cheers.

#30

Turns out she’s fell for a toy boy, and I naively misused my ability to manifest a skin rush or goosebumps by initially using it as a physical affirmation during meditation, it turned from bring able to switch on a sense of love then got out if control and hugely addictive. I started telling her this before she told me her side and waw, I’ve managed to overload my senses and get it all wrong. There’s a lesson to be learned here somewhere.

#31

I think these kind of situations are quiet common. I was always told to me by my teachers that the relation of a student and a teacher is like a father and a daughter and vice versa. If this feeling is not there than it is not possible to learn from the teacher and also not possible for the teacher to truly teach the student. If you feel the teacher sees you like a “guy” not a student than may be you need to ask yourself if you are going to the class to learn something or just practice in a group. Because if you are going to learn something than the teacher can not teach you now and if you just want to practice in group you can find another group.

#32

Everything is just as it should be …
Perfect
Love cheers