"People often
use judgment as a way
to control others.
They negate the way
their spouse is,
their friend is,
their child is
in an unconscious
mode to change them.
But it does not change them,
it simply makes them feel wrong.
Makes them hate themselves.
So you tell your child
often enough
they are bad,
they will believe it.
If you abuse someone enough,
they will automatically abuse themselves
for the rest of their lives.
But everyone is just as they are.
Everyone’s outer personality
is a byproduct
of so many things that
cannot be controlled.
If I get angry
at my dog
for not eating his dinner,
is my anger actually
caused by my dog?
He is simply being him.
Perhaps he was not hungry.
Perhaps the food did not taste good.
He had a tummy ache.
He was too blissful to eat.
Whatever the reason,
he was not doing it to get at me.
He was not hurting me in any way.
He was being him.
But that is where the ego kicks in.
If the ego feels disrespected
by someone acting differently
to the way he thinks they should act,
then out comes the anger,
out comes the judgments.
It is an unconscious
ongoing battle.
The desperate desire
to try and control others.
To make them the way you think they should be.
So the remedy is always acceptance.
The next time someone
does something that does not fit in
with your beliefs,
Perhaps they burp loudly,
or they say something
or follow something
you do not believe in,
or they do not finish their dinner
or they slept late,
or can’t get a job,
or they reacted to something you said,
Why not accept them as they
are.
Give up trying to control.
Let your ego
feel shattered & disrespected.
In acceptance
you free yourself
and others,
love flows naturally
and you make this world
a better place.
Blessings,
Kip"
Kip Mazuy is the creator of Bliss Music and Ocean Euphoric, an audio
meditation program that washes you in enlightened presence, making it easy
for you to experience deep states of peace in meditation. For more
information and free teachings on meditation/self realization go to
www.bliss-music.com
