Hi Lavina,
may I add some quotations from Eastern body Western mind (psychology and the Chakra System as a Path to the Self) written by Anodea Judith:
“The heart chakra brings us to the place of acceptance and openness that allows the spirit inside to be still and find peace and stability without constriction. Healing the heart involves attending to the most vulnerable and sacred aspect within ourselves. Only through attending to their truth can we drop the protective armor that keeps us bound to the ego, bound to smaller parts of ourselves. Manipulation, derision, critisism, or command will not work. We can only melt the armor with the combination of feeling and understanding that is love. Through love we are able to expose our instinctual core and evolve to the next step of expressing our truth. Through love we are able to embrace and heal the larger world around us. Relationship furthers the evolution of individual souls and the collective soul of our planet.”
“In honoring our individuality, we honor the subtle relationships within ourselves. We honor the individuality of every composite part: the part that seeks success, the part that fears it, the part that longs for commitment, the part that wants freedom, the inner child, the rebellious teenager, the plaser, the nurturing parent, and all the other selves we observe as we go through life. They may want different things at different times, or even different things at the same time. Learning to coordinate these internal relationships is the inner work of self-love. Our feelings are brought into relationship with our belief system, our vulnerable child forms the allliance with our responsible adult… The parts are many and the combinations infinite. Only through this relational process do we form a sense of the whole.”
“The purpose of the heart chakra in the system as a whole is to get us to expand beyond our limited egos into a wider sense of connection with all life. This is the movement of the liberating current. While it is important not to deny or neglect the smaller self, it is indeed a liberating experiance to rise beyond the confines of our own needs and find joy in service and altruism”
Somebody adviced to a man who no longer loved his wife nor was loved in return:
“Love her”, he told the man.
“I told you, the feeling just isn’t there anymore,” the man replied.
“Than love her. If the feeling isn’t there, that’s a good reason to love her.”
“But how do you love when you do not love?” asked the man.
"My friend, love is a verb. Love-the feeling- is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?
