How do teachers see students?

Yoga Discussion General Yoga
#1

My teacher and I are casual friends, but then I’m not sure if this is the extent it will go. I am fine with that, but then I’m a bit confused. I just wanted input/views from teachers here, even though we’re all individuals and act/think differently.

Based on the rapport, I asked her out a few months ago. However, a relative of hers was sick at the time so she couldn’t attend. But about a month ago, she invited me out, but I couldn’t attend. I asked her out but she said to play it by ear as she’s busy outside classes. Is it just a case of casual familiarity, since it’s fine if this is so because she would have friends outside class, but then I’m just confused because I don’t get her intentions here.

I know this isn’t strictly yoga-related, but then I took up yoga largely to on my therapist’s advice as means to get out and connect, and this seemed a boon because of that.

#2

The question is whether you get YOUR intentions here, not hers.

The reply, as I see it, differs based on the above. If you’re asking about spending time with someone as platonic friends, that is one thing. An intimate relationship is another. I’ll assume the latter because the former doesn’t really require much of a reply.

It is absolutely yoga-related as the other person in the equation is a teacher of yoga (and therefore has a higher bar of ethics and integrity to navigate) and is YOUR teacher (therefore holding a power position in the same way any teacher holds one over any student).

When a teacher is not clear and clean with his/her intention with students (as a whole) then Pandora’s Box is open and energetically the class and space become unsafe for the attendees. If the two people involved are serious and resonating at a similar frequency then it can be “okay”. If it is merely dating for the sake of dating, or flitting around to sample this and that, or experimenting, then perhaps it’s best avoided in the circumstances outlined.

The therapeutic counseling you mention is likely not intended for directing students to have relationships (intimate ones) with their teachers. Again that is not to say don’t make friends (refer to intention comment above), but perhaps make them from the student population instead.

I’ve been invited to student’s art shows, their home for dinner, etc. But it has always been in a group setting or in a situation where I was already involved in an intimate relationship so the boundaries were already quite clear.

#3

[QUOTE=InnerAthlete;85731]The question is whether you get YOUR intentions here, not hers.

The reply, as I see it, differs based on the above. If you’re asking about spending time with someone as platonic friends, that is one thing. An intimate relationship is another. I’ll assume the latter because the former doesn’t really require much of a reply.

It is absolutely yoga-related as the other person in the equation is a teacher of yoga (and therefore has a higher bar of ethics and integrity to navigate) and is YOUR teacher (therefore holding a power position in the same way any teacher holds one over any student).

When a teacher is not clear and clean with his/her intention with students (as a whole) then Pandora’s Box is open and energetically the class and space become unsafe for the attendees. If the two people involved are serious and resonating at a similar frequency then it can be “okay”. If it is merely dating for the sake of dating, or flitting around to sample this and that, or experimenting, then perhaps it’s best avoided in the circumstances outlined.

The therapeutic counseling you mention is likely not intended for directing students to have relationships (intimate ones) with their teachers. Again that is not to say don’t make friends (refer to intention comment above), but perhaps make them from the student population instead.

I’ve been invited to student’s art shows, their home for dinner, etc. But it has always been in a group setting or in a situation where I was already involved in an intimate relationship so the boundaries were already quite clear.[/QUOTE]

No, it’s the former, since I think she’s cute but I don’t think she sees me in that way, so I’ve kind of given up the ghost in that regard.

#4

Intellectually but perhaps not energetically. And Yoga is all energetics.

#5

It must be hard trying to imagine how bendy she can be in other places than the class :smiley: