Kundalini for self confidence communication and against Fear

Hello everybody

Since I have discover the Kundalini Yoga I have fell a big progression in my life.

And I would like to know some exercise that can be particulary benefits for me.

I would say that my big probleme is the lack of self confidence and the dificulty to communicate my feelings when it come to love somebody or being angry …
Or just to act natural, express or know what I feel…
Each Time when I meet a Girl that I love and want to show my desire I feel such a fear in my stomac and such a difficulty to express myself, say anythink that I don’t dare to talk to her, and she have to make the first and the next step toward me… But I want to be free to express my love to everybody.
I don’t want to fear anymore that somebody looks into my eyes and see myself as I am

The thing is I have bing rape as I was a Child, and never said it to anybody until the last 3 Month. and I feel ashame and it is hard to show me as I am…

So that about the explication of what I feel

Appart from making a psychotherapie (What I do also)
I would like to know any exercise to fight our Fear, to build self confidence, to open myself to my feeling, and to communicate more easily with other people… I can do it when I feel good but not when I loose my confidence

If you know some of that kind of exercise please tell me , I will be really grateful

Thanks

Francois

Hello and welcome Francois.

Love and desire are not the same thing. In fact in the yogic context they stem from totally different vocalizations in the body. Until the voice of the pelvis is brought up and transformed in the heart it would be very challenging to feel a sincere, healthy love. Desire, craving, and lust are in the way a bit, leftovers from our beginnings and associated with the animal instinct.

Hello InnerAthlete

You mark a point. Effectively I think it is the desire that make me feel inconfortable. But it is to show my desire to a girl that I love. If I desire a girl I don’t love there is no fear for me… So I think I feel unconfortable to say to a girl that I love that I desire her also…
I can show that I love her but not that I desire her sexually…

In a relationship we need both…

And when I act like a friend that just love without desire I ly and the girl don’t feel good also… as a girl… and finally I like better to ovoid her…

Yeah the probleme is to show my desire … as I don’t see it as something beautifull…
( I notice that I have no probleme to show my “love” to a man as I am not attracted )

I also have more and more probleme to act natural, laugh, be angry… or anythink related as beeing natural
I feel nervous, ask me too many question,I loose my spontaneity and contact with my desire…
And finaly I look like somebody without feeling

What is going wrong with me ?
Is there somethink I should work (to much/not enough) energy
In my solar plexus, heart, throat, sacred chakra ???

Some exercise, advice

Thank for all

To open yourself to someone you care about and show your desire is to become vulnerable. Your fear is being vulnerable, and being hurt as a result.

I am glad to hear you are in therapy, and if it has only been the past three months, then know that you have made big steps in how far you have come in realizing how you are afraid to express yourself to those who have your heart.
This in itself is a big step, but only one step in the process of becoming more confident. Be easy on yourself, be patient. Keep working with your therapist, and keep doing your yoga. Do small things that make you feel brave to do, even though you feel frightened.
Sometimes we let our mind build things to be bigger than they are. Recognize when you are doing this, and bring fearful situations back down to size. By practicing this, you will gain confidence and lose your fears. Don’t let your fears control you. But don’t be hard on yourself. Be patient, take small steps.

I am sure others will have yoga suggestions that focus on the chakras you may need to work on removing blockage from. :slight_smile:

Francoisneko,

Problems which have their root causes at the level of the mind can only be dissolved at the level of the mind. All of these problems can be dissolved through meditation. It is just a question of whether you are willing to initiate the effort and energy into the work. Because the whole science of meditation is none other than remaining a witness from moment to moment without becoming identified with whatever arises in your experience. The moment the mind becomes identified, one loses all clarity of vision. This will help you to become aware of the inner workings of your mind in such a way that you can watch the mind without attachment, without being a slave to the activity of the mind. What is important to understand is that one is not making an effort to destroy certain thoughts or emotions. What is needed is simply to understand them. Out of the light of understanding - there comes a certain freedom. Then, even if fear arises, you can remain centered and balanced. And you will find that the fear disappears just as quickly as it had arisen. If the mind were left onto itself without your attachment to it, nothing would even linger on long enough - everything is constantly changing, in an unceasing stream of change. So much of the work of meditation is learning how to move in harmony with the current, along a path of least resistence. It all comes down to one simple principle : awareness. You just have to learn to remain aware as to whatever is happening within you, without judgement, without any prejudice.

@ Joanna63
Thank you for the Kind advice. Yes I learn to be patient and go step by step…
It s true that my Mind make problem bigger then they are, I have to go closer and closer to what I fear, with patience…
Thank you, your advice are really wise

@ AmirMourad
To be conscious of what I fell at each moment and especially when I fell bad is a great help to relativize and give freedom to my mind. To be honnest I’m not always strong enough and my fear are sometime too strong to be conscious or spontaneous…
That why I ask for some exercise to make everyday and open my hear my self confidence…
But I try to practice that Kind of meditation in my everyday life
Thank you very much

Hi francoisneko,

Amir has a lot of wise advice regarding his meditation wisdom, knowledge and experience.I can tell just by reading his posts that he seems to know what he’s talking about.Watch your mind, what it does, how it reacts but try to remain detached from it’s machinations or construtions.Your closest ally is deep meditation particularly deep froms of it but also just focusing on th breath cn help steady the mind and relax the system. I think it’s called anapanasanti. It does’nt matter what it’s called but just try breathing through the nostrils in a relaxed and natural while observing the breath, not forced , try making your inhale and exhales equal and then see hwo you feel. Also consider joining a hatha yoga class to get a feel for asana which may also help deal with muscular tension and defintiely support your meditation.

[QUOTE=francoisneko;55012]Since I have discover the Kundalini Yoga I have fell a big progression in my life.[/QUOTE]How you feel Kundalini?

[QUOTE=core789;55113]Hi francoisneko,

Amir has a lot of wise advice regarding his meditation wisdom, knowledge and experience.I can tell just by reading his posts that he [B]seems to know[/B] what he’s talking about.Watch your mind, what it does, how it reacts but try to remain detached from it’s machinations or construtions.Your closest ally is deep meditation particularly deep froms of it but also just focusing on th breath cn help steady the mind and relax the system. I think it’s called anapanasanti. It does’nt matter what it’s called but just try breathing through the nostrils in a relaxed and natural while observing the breath, not forced , try making your inhale and exhales equal and then see hwo you feel. Also consider joining a hatha yoga class to get a feel for asana which may also help deal with muscular tension and defintiely support your meditation.[/QUOTE]

Seems to know - but doesn’t

Her holiness

you guru (if she really was one) would know

look I found her picture

why don't you ask her?

@core789
Thank for the advice, I try to practice it also. It is a very good technic.
The thing is I have loose myself for a couple a Year trying to meditate but in fact I was manipulating my mind, always trying to controle …
I know it is the opposite of what you say
When you feel bad even the best exercise can be misused…
In fact I want to work on my body level cause the tension are written inside, the mind is always changing and you can loose yourself into it …

@Seeker33
Kundalini (or other form of yoga ?) is good to bring out the stress, tension that we accumulates in our body. It help me to feel where are the tension
I know we can also work on specific chakra to bring more energy or evacuate the overflow of energy inside. As I don’t know that much about I prefeare not to work on that as it could unbalance my energie. But rather work on bringing out my stress tension … That is what I do each morning and evening …
The mind change also by herself after a session …
I am looking for some exercise to clean some chakra, not to bring more energie but rather to cure, equilibrate, let the energie circulate more easily…
And also exercise to confront the fear we have inside…

@The Scales
Is your Guru not a witch… Be carrefull not to fall into the tentation of the evil madness… or you will transfom into a pig also :stuck_out_tongue:

[QUOTE=francoisneko;55213]@Seeker33
I am looking for some exercise to clean some chakra, not to bring more energie but rather to cure, equilibrate, let the energie circulate more easily…
And also exercise to confront the fear we have inside…[/QUOTE]The best way to clean the chakra is to awaken Kundalini because when you remove the problems from the chakra you need to fill it with positive energy.

[QUOTE=Seeker33;55280]The best way to clean the chakra is to awaken Kundalini because when you remove the problems from the chakra you need to fill it with positive energy.[/QUOTE]

Did your guru teach you this bull garbage?

[B]In between the eyelids is the Agna Chakra with its two petals. Over that is the Maha Peeta called Udayana.[/B]
Yoga Sikha Upanishad

[QUOTE=Seeker33;55385][B]In between the eyelids is the Agna Chakra with its two petals. [B]Over that is the Maha Peeta called Udayana.[/B][/B]
Yoga Sikha Upanishad[/QUOTE]

Over that where? Front? Back? In the Middle. Rear of Aft? Above the head?

Where precisely? and what does it do?

Please go ask your guru in her mansion - where the Maha Peeta that is called udayana is exactly - and hurry up!

Hurry up and get back to US so we can “feel the breeze.” - too.

or whatever . . .

:???:

Agnya Chakra

[QUOTE=The Scales;55207]Seems to know - but doesn’t[/QUOTE]

Hi Scales,

Amir has always struck me as sincere and knowledgeable and above all helpful amongst other things…He has good knowledge and understanding and he speaks from experience…I’m not really sure therefore where you’re coming from in this regard… I know you’re a bit of a joker but when he talks about meditation and philosophy and such like i feel i know where he’s coming from and I can relate to what he’s talking about.

If you feel somone is’nt necessarily filtering theory back through direct authentic experience then of course then is no burden to convince anyone. Although anyone might feel obligated to challenge.

I’ve noticed you have fairly direct style about you which is fine by me…

But i’ve found Amir’s contributions here helpful as well as interesting…and yours too.

“How you feel Kundalini?”

First, it is important to be able to discriminate between what is just your own imagination, and what is an authentic experience of awakening the kundalini. That is why it is absolutely essential in the practice of, not just kundalini yoga, but any form of yoga - that one brings into one’s experience a quality of remaining an observer which is capable of witnessing from moment to moment whatever arises in your experience - without liking or disliking, without attraction towards or aversion from. If you cannot even be aware of your own mental projections as they arise, then there is very little possibility of awakening enough clarity to be capable of discriminating what is just your imagination and the reality.

As far as experience is concerned, there are many different manifestations of the Kundalini. It will express itself in different ways depending on which aspect of your own life energies are being charged by it. Just as there is electricity, magnetism, electromagnetism, gravity, and so on - similarly at the subtle level there are a variety of different subtle energies which are of different qualities. In the yogic sciences, we refer to them collectively as prana - but it should not be misunderstood that prana just expresses itself in one way. Depending on which part of the body you are considering, there are different aspects of subtle energy which are functioning there. Through each of the chakras, there is a particular form of life energy, each of which is functioning at a certain rate of vibration.

So there are two aspects to understand about the anatomy of the subtle body - one is the vessel which carries energy (nadis), the second is the energy itself which flows through the nadis. It is just like a wire, and the electricity which is flowing behind it. That is in fact what these “chakras” are, they are just a collection of nadis which come together to form a bundle of nadis which carry particular forms of life energy.

Prana is at the level of the heart, udana is at the level of the throat, samana is at the level of the navel, apana is at the sacral level, vyana pervades the whole body, kurmana which assists the opening and closing of the eyes, kirkala at the stomach which assists digestion and also produces the sensation of hunger, and dhananjaya which does not leave the body after death. This is the reason why the body of parahamsa yogananda and several other yogis have taken a much longer time than ordinary to decay - in the case of yogananda it took more than 21 days to start witnessing the effects of bodily decay. This is because the dhananjaya in his system was rich in vitality which helped preserve the body. There are various other subtle energies, but these are just a few.

Depending on which form of energy is more dominant at the time of awakening the Kundalini, it is going to express itself differently. Sometimes, it is in the form of intense heat - sometimes the opposite. Sometimes, it will jump spontaneously from one part of the body to the other - usually in a vertical direction, sometimes it will move gradually like a current of electricity along the spinal cord. Depending on it’s movements, in the yogic sciences we have described the expressions of Kundalini as similar to the movements of different animals. There is that kind of awakening which is of an ant-like movement, there is that kind of awakenign which is a serpent-like movement, there is that kind of awakening which is a bird-like movement, and like this there are various different ways to describe the possibilities of how Kundalini can move in your system. But it is of my own experience that the most common expression of it is a certain current of energy with waves of vibration moving along the spinal cord, sometimes cold and sometimes hot, sometimes pleasant and sometimes unpleasant. It is often unpleasant and even painful if you have not already undergone a thorough purification of the nadis. Because otherwise, if you happen to awaken Kundalini, once it starts rising up the spinal cord, if your nadis have not been purified and the “knots” of energy untied, then it will simply burn it’s way through the nadis by force. If it forces it’s way with too much intensity, it can create several problems in your nervous system as well as psychological disturbances. This is usually what creates the great danger of awakening Kundalini without the proper understanding or without the help of a master, because if you manage to awaken the Kundalini at a time when your system has not yet become prepared to receive it, it may cause more damage than good.