Meditation Interupted by boyfriend constantly!

Spirituality
#1

My boyfried and I moved in with eachother about a month ago. I like to meditate in the morning right when I wake up. I will put my ipod on and lie on the couch trying to empty my mind.

My boyfriend always wakes up when I am getting out of bed and says “Hey, where are you going?” and thats okay but I don’t like talking about meditation, I feel like it takes away from the practice.

He knows I meditate and i have told him not to interupt me when my eyes are shut and my headphones are on.

Its so annoying. The other morning he woke up while I was meditating on the couch. He interupted me upset because he though I was sleeping on the couch because I was mad at him. I was not mad at him! I was trying to meditate.

I don’t know what to do! He just doesn’t get it. I wish he would leave me alone for the first 30 minutes of the day.

Help me deal with this. How do I get him to leave me alone when I meditate and understand that first thing in the morning is when I like to meditate.

#2

meditation is about letting go, let go of this, but also explain as necesarry. you two are new together and I hope in time it will get better. you could also tell him that everytime he does this you get to hit him ten times with a pillow, who knows you two might have some fun with that

#3

You need to communicate clearly what it is you are doing. I understand you feel it takes away from the experience if you need to explain it, but this is more about relationship building than anything else. Communication is essential to relationship. Just tell him what you are doing and that it bothers you to be interrupted. Hopefully then you will get the peace you need.

#4

You don’t tell him you meditate in the morning, you don’t let him know that you need this time alone, and you are annoyed that he doesn’t know?

#5

Aren’t relationships fascinating?

You’ve opted to more deeply explore your relationship by living together and already the Universe has provided you with such an opportunity. I think you’re fortunate it’s not a particularly severe issue right out of the gate. This is what you’ve asked for; the opportunity to live together as two connected at the soul.

Now is the time to employ the relating methodologies you two have fostered as a couple. If that is stewing in a corner waiting and hoping, so be it. If it is arranging a sit down and working together toward a resolution, so be it.

From a yoga viewpoint whatever this annoyance is it is merely a reflection of yourself. So perhaps this is also a time to examine how you are like this - how you interrupt or disturb others or how you don’t understand what others are doing when they have not thoroughly explained their process to you. Whatever the other side might be, there is almost always something profoundly helpful about self.

Finally, there is the efficacy of meditation in the living of the doer. If the fruits of one’s meditation are such that they cannot bear an interruption by their beloved (or life partner or soul mate) then it begs the question of what that meditation is delivering to the doer. Sure, we’re all calm when things are calm. The test of the work is in the eye of the storm, not in the comfort of the headphones.

#6

[QUOTE=Brother Neil;36847]meditation is about letting go, let go of this, but also explain as necesarry. you two are new together and I hope in time it will get better. you could also tell him that everytime he does this you get to hit him ten times with a pillow, who knows you two might have some fun with that[/QUOTE]

Thats a good idea, but I’m afraid he would enjoy the pillow fight method too much and end up interupting me constantly!!! :stuck_out_tongue:

#7

Thanks Alix, you are right. This is more about us communicating, it is my fault I am so used to living alone.

Haha, yes Flexpenguin, you have a point. I sound like a royal pain in the you know where!

Innerathlete, what a thought provoking response. Perhaps I am stewing in a corner, waiting and hoping. I have just been so stressed lately, with school and work. I need to find balance, but when school isn’t stressing me out its work and vice versa.

#8

[QUOTE=Pear Martini;36956]Thats a good idea, but I’m afraid he would enjoy the pillow fight method too much and end up interupting me constantly!!! :p[/QUOTE]

ha ha, ok then, how about just having a pillow fight for no reason, a beautiful thing
smiles to you
Brother neil

#9

if only one knows to properly express or communicate views, likes and dislikes to their friends or partners they can overcome almost all the problems.

Just a lack of understanding but in time he will understand what u doing who knows he too join ur morning meditation.

#10

I wouldn’t let him get to you so much. Isn’t mediation about becoming a better person? Be compassionate to his interruption and use them as an opportunity to develop your patience and kindness… I would never put the quality of my mediation before my loved ones. It doesn’t make sense,