Hi Hanu,
I have no personal teacher, just books and DVDs!! And I don’t know anything about lady-stuff.
However, since it has not been mentioned: You should not rest on your neck at all. Rest on the shoulderblades. When you lie flat on the floor before going into shoulderstand, push the shoulderblades together, that will create some sort of “tunnel” with the spine going through it. When you lift the body up, the weight should be on the blades. The neck does touch the ground, but it should not hold the weight. I do quite some adjustment every time I do that posture, to get it comfortable. Padding is a good idea, but I guess a small padding that will only cover a small area is bad again, because you’ll push on it with your weight so it will become quite hard. I do the shoulderstand on at least a thick mat (foam rubber, 1.5 cm), often I have two of these mats + a regular blanket (cuz dat’s my sometimes-bed too :eek:). So it is a padding that covers my whole back equally.
I had problems with shoulderstand too, not only with coming up into it, but as well with all the blood flowing into my head. I had a feeling like my eyes would pop out (not so bad, but in that direction). I got used to it. When you click here, you’ll see different photos of the posture. Try the somewhat “half” version first, where the legs aren’t straight up. I did that a lot to get over the blood-in-the-head problem, and it is also less stressful for the neck.
Have a look at the video on this page, what she demonstrates beginning at 2:30 seems quite reasonable to me, just that I wouldn’t tie my arms, looks kinda scary. Around 3:40 you have a closeup of her neck and see that it’s not on the ground at all. I’m not so sure if the height-difference of shoulders and head is really a good thing, but I’d experiment with this setup if I had problems. Maybe start with only one blanket to raise your shoulder-area and see how it works out.