For me it is neither. I have not used the term “tuck the tailbone” for ten years. I have found this instruction (again, for me) to be an instruction of last resort and therefore only use it when I am flummoxed and cannot otherwise “reach” the student with other directions.
We live in a society where we are often guided/led only by pelvic or vital force AND most have a leaky force at that. Such leadership inhibits our ability to mindfully evolve as the force being referenced is the force of survival, procreation, desire, lust, and craving. It is not a “bad” force it simply blocks aspiration (movement upward toward the heart center) when it is out of balance and therefore dominant.
With that in mind, it is helpful for those on the path of evolving mindfully or aspiring, in the yogic context, to contain the pelvic force, lift it to the heart and work to transform it. Such an action should be maintained but should not sacrifice healthy curvature in the lumbar spine. In fact said curvature is not sacrificed when the aspirational action comes from the pubis upward rather than ONLY a drooping from the lumbo-sacral region downward.
So for me it is lifting the bottom of the belly (which lengthens the spine) rather than tucking the tailbone which tends to compress it, harden the buttocks, and strain the low back. It is important to note that each student may be structurally “different” and need unique instructions which are almost always contradictory but complementary. And it is for this reason that I suggest OPs seek a teacher, not because I enjoy saying it.