Some people disregard emotional pain thinking that it is ephemeral and people “play” it just to draw the attention.
Why do they think so?
[QUOTE=CityMonk;35176]Some people disregard emotional pain thinking that it is ephemeral and people “play” it just to draw the attention.
Why do they think so?[/QUOTE]
Would you mind re-phrasing the question?
I think because we are taught to be strong, to grow up and stop crying, that sadness or grief or melancholy are weaknesses. Children have less control in limiting the expression of these emotions, so maybe that might be where it originates from? And sadly some people use unfortunate circumstance to gain attention. I strongly believe that emotions, good or bad, are neither good or bad and are fleeting but not unimportant and not without merit, and it is often to a person’s own detriment to repress such emotion.
I couldn’t agree more. The problem is, most of us are EXTREMELY uncomfortable with others expressing emotion and try to get them to stop one way or another. I think many of us want each other to be emotionless zombies. We’ve discussed emotion quite a bit here 
I think Zo and David are spot on.
On the flip side if someone is doing it to get attention, ask yourself why are they? The ‘need for attention’ comes from a place of lack/ need/ insecurity etc…There is no right or wrong when it comes to feeling emotions, how I would deal with a loss would be totally different to how you would deal with a loss. Is my way any better than your way, no not at all.
As long as we feel, and allow ourselves to feel however ugly it may present itself.
Emotion is not predictable, structured or conventional, it is wise, strong and healing.
Emotional pain is not as concrete as physical pain and much harder to deal with and understand. It is deep and dark and comes from a place that scares most people. I think that sometimes people appear to view emotional pain as ephemeral, but it is because they don’t know what to say or how to comfort the person in pain. They could feel they are beyond emotion, piggybacking David, and cannot articulate empathy.
But I would like to think that most people don’t think of it this way and that in their heart they feel empathy and compassion but choose to not show it or have not been taught to express it.
[QUOTE=lotusgirl;35207]Emotional pain is not as concrete as physical pain and much harder to deal with and understand. It is deep and dark and comes from a place that scares most people. I think that sometimes people appear to view emotional pain as ephemeral, but it is because they don’t know what to say or how to comfort the person in pain. They could feel they are beyond emotion, piggybacking David, and cannot articulate empathy.
But I would like to think that most people don’t think of it this way and that in their heart they feel empathy and compassion but choose to not show it or have not been taught to express it.[/QUOTE]
you are right…
I can stand most of physical pain. I do not take pain killers if something hurt. But emotional pain just drive me crazy sometimes. Antidepressants are painkillers for the soul:)) but I do not favor them neither
But emotional pain just drive me crazy sometimes.
Try being more aware at the time you are passing through such moments. I am sure by that it will drive you less and less crazy.
Anger, tension etc. have more magnitude when we are carried away by them. Just try to be aware of your state and you will have more control of that automatically.
hope this helps.
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Emotion is not predictable, structured or conventional, it is wise, strong and healing.[/QUOTE]
Well said!
On subject: maybe, because since birth most people fanatically get tied around into the web of senses. Attention moves outside, making think that the only way to influence a state is to change an external situation.
What you call emotional pain is almost the same to physical one but without an “obvious” reason.
If there is a lack of trust, it leads to the lack of sympathy.