I’m a shy, nice guy. I go to school but am a good bit older than my classmates (roughly 7-10 years). Taking yoga now, I feel like this will be a good opportunity to meet like-minded ladies. But I don’t want to be out of line and make a girl feel uncomfortable. As I said, I’m shy, so it’s not like I’m going to slap a girl’s butt while she’s in downward-facing dog or anything like that. Where’s the line, generally speaking?
Well.
I would imagine yall having some common ground.
Perhaps you could start a friendly conversation about the class or yoga or something.
Start the conversation. Nod a lot. Ask questions and let her do most of the talking.
That will be 10 dollars.
Ah man, I didn’t know this was a pay-for-advice site. That’s bogus!
[QUOTE=AthMJ;49845]Ah man, I didn’t know this was a pay-for-advice site. That’s bogus!
:p[/QUOTE]
Knowledge is power. Some see money as power.
Oh and don’t just dive in and ask the dame out. Feel things out. Take your time. Play it cool. Make a friend first - if you can.
That will be 10 more dollars.
AthMJ,
I would hope something other than “shy” prevents one yoga practitioner from slapping the rear of another student especially when crossing gender boundaries.
Most of your question could be answered in your study of Yama and Niyama. But I’ll cliff notes this for you. As long as you operate with the utmost respect for the practice, others AND yourself, you’ll be far ahead of the curve.
Meeting and mingling with others that share your interests and passions is not only smart it is actually quite crucial. That is not to say one should avoid diversity of interests or thoughts or people. However I don’t know anyone who appreciates the person who is a serial dater or is trolling class for their next excursion on the town.
Make friends of all sorts and allow you to be you. In yoga the universe gives us not only direction (when we are quiet enough to hear it) but also exactly what we need.
[QUOTE=AthMJ;49842]As I said, I’m shy, so it’s not like I’m going to slap a girl’s butt while she’s in downward-facing dog or anything like that. Where’s the line, generally speaking?[/QUOTE]
I think you should tell her you wanted to slap her ass while she was in DD. She’ll think your an asshole, and assholes get laid lol
Sadly we settle for mediocrity.
[QUOTE=InnerAthlete;49875]Sadly we settle for mediocrity.[/QUOTE]
lol I never fail to bring shame to the forum
By the way, there’s no specific girl here. I’m just curious for future situations.
I worded the whole “slap on the butt” thing poorly. I don’t think that’s okay in any circumstance - at yoga class or at Hooters.
@ Adam: Not to the forum, my friend. You deny others the true benefit of your wisdom and experience and I can’t imagine that feeling deeply satisfying.
@ AthMJ: Bravo!
[QUOTE=InnerAthlete;49868]AthMJ,
Meeting and mingling with others that share your interests and passions is not only smart it is actually quite crucial. That is not to say one should avoid diversity of interests or thoughts or people. However I don’t know anyone who appreciates the person who is a serial dater or is trolling class for their next excursion on the town.
Make friends of all sorts and allow you to be you. In yoga the universe gives us not only direction (when we are quiet enough to hear it) but also exactly what we need.[/QUOTE]
I would like to echo what InnerAthlete has said here. Very well put.
Honestly, I don’t think that picking up chicks at yoga is different than picking them up anywhere. If you are blatantly PICKING UP CHICKS you will be seen as distasteful. At least to me. If you are simply being friendly, being yourself, you will make friends. Some of them may be of the opposite gender.
The fact that you are seeing yoga as a place to meet ladies makes it appear to be a trolling type activity. Your first intention should be to go to yoga, otherwise this ulterior motive will come across in your actions and vibe.
No, it’s just the only place I’m likely to meet like-minded people because I spend the rest of my time at school where everyone is considerably younger than me, or studying. Definitely not trolling. 
If you’re asking if it’s okay to ask someone out thats in your yoga class, I think it just depends. I don’t think there’s really any universal rule on it. If the girl says no, it could be seen as “picking up chicks.” If she says yes, then the yoga class was a fantastic and appropriate place to meet someone you like.
Just focus on making friends. As long as you don’t ask the teacher out, you’re not breaking any rules.
If one adheres to the laws of intention and respect then one doesn’t need to worry about group think or what someone else might project. When sound in your own beliefs you don’t need other people to validate your existence.
Forget the line, just do it. Forget about what is proper or improper, act according to your own intelligence without any guidelines. If you fail, you fail. Good. If you do not take it personally, you have lost nothing. More opportunity to learn how to get the girl.
lol. AthMJ that’s a lot of pre-preparation for a future situation. Trust your destiny - if it is fated it will happen. No worries.
[QUOTE=AmirMourad;49959]Forget the line, just do it. Forget about what is proper or improper, act according to your own intelligence without any guidelines. If you fail, you fail. Good. If you do not take it personally, you have lost nothing. More opportunity to learn how to get the girl.[/QUOTE]
I agree 100% with this…
…What works for me due to my interests is discussing music or books. It’s an easy conversation starter. Little cliche but who cares!
It’s not pre-preparation. I’m just asking about its appropriateness. Although I appreciate the replies, I don’t know why people insist on making it about more than whether or not you feel it’s appropriate.
[QUOTE=AthMJ;49842]I’m a shy, nice guy. I go to school but am a good bit older than my classmates (roughly 7-10 years). Taking yoga now, I feel like this will be a good opportunity to meet like-minded ladies. But I don’t want to be out of line and make a girl feel uncomfortable. As I said, I’m shy, so it’s not like I’m going to slap a girl’s butt while she’s in downward-facing dog or anything like that. Where’s the line, generally speaking?[/QUOTE]
If I were you I’d try to organize some kind of small group get-together outside of class & then chat her up at that function, put your feelers out & see if she’s interested. Yoga class is a funny place, some people can feel very vulnerable in yoga or exercise environments. It’s not like asking a girl from work out. If they wanted a meat market, they’d just go join 24hr Fitness, you know?
& whatever you do, make sure you ask her out after class so if for some reason you creep her out she’s not looking over her shoulder the whole time. If you can work it out, spend a week or two closer to the front of the class than her so she doesn’t think that you just want to get a piece because you like the look of her “down dog”. Get me? 
& if she turns you down, DEFINITELY move to the front of the class or at least the other side of the room. & con’t to be friendly but keep your distance. Word can spread like wildfire & creeped out girls talk.
Don’t be “that guy”.
When you’re training, train. Don’t be distracted, don’t lose focus.
If you make friends with a girl after class and things progress naturally, then fine. I’ve known many people to fall in love through yoga.
Bear in mind that many women, and likewise men, come to yoga to address a specific issue, or health problem. Some come to yoga because of difficulties in sexual relationships. They might not want to be approached, learn to recognize this. (Not implying that you or anyone is pestering any girls in class, just putting that out there.)
When I took my first class aged 22, I noticed as any young man would, that there were some beautiful girls in class. 4 years later I started to experience a little of what yoga was about, where it could take me. At that point it didn’t matter who was in class.
I reckon a student should be fully focused and absorbed in the practice while in class. Full concentration. Sexuality gos aside for a little while. That way, yoga can come into personal life, which in turn becomes more balanced and fulfilling.