Yoga postures to help with stress

Hello all, I posted here once a long time ago asking a few questions and recieved lots of very knowledgeable responces back. Recently I’ve been under a lot of stress and I’ve made the decision to return to yoga to help calm it, and wondered if I might ask you all for your help again :slight_smile:

Without going into too much mind-numbing detail a woman whose company I am forced into on a regular basis has been harassing me via various methods, mainly by talking about me behind my back to people we are both friendly with, spreading unkind rumours, freezing me out of conversations and simultaneously being over friendly and extremely over familiar, grabbing my arms or hugging me or asking odd personal questions. This escalated over several months until recently I reached my limit and sat her down for a talk. The talk ended with her crying hysterically and denying everything, and now she doesn’t even pretend to be a friend which is a mild relief.

Worryingly, it’s been several weeks since the final talk but if I’m around her or even just think about her I get a terrible acheing knot in my upper abdomen. Sometimes it’s so painful I double up or have trouble standing straight. I feel awful, and I’m scared I’ve lost control of myself or I’ve developed some sort of mental complex :frowning: I’ve also started having problems sleeping and wake up in the middle of the night thinking the whole situation over. I’ve never suffered from any kind of anxiety or depression before, so at first I had no clue what was going on and thought I had a stomach bug!

A family member suggested I see a hypnotist, but instead it reminded me of my yoga that I abandoned a year ago after emigrating from the UK. So I’ve decided to turn to yoga again before even thinking of going for counselling or hypnotherapy. I’m still searching for ANY yoga class in this rural area I can attend, so in the meantime I want to practice on my own.

My skill level is fairly novice after such a long break :-? I’m looking for simple postures that’ll help me clear my head and physically prevent these cramps from happening. I’m also looking for some other postures that’ll really tire me out before bed so I’m ready for sleep and stop waking up. I’ve been doing some light meditation and breathing exercises, but my concentration wanders within minutes. I’ve been doing a lot of child pose these last couple of days and it seems to be having an effect, but I’m stuck for other ideas :slight_smile: and lastly I’ve never been a remotely spiritual person before, but this whole episode of my life has really changed my perspective, so a little development in that direction won’t hurt either. It’d feel nice to have some support. I have a very loving and caring boyfriend who I’ve been with for years (he’s the reason I left the UK :wink: ) but he doesn’t understand that a cuddle and telling me ‘not to think about it’ just isn’t working (which makes me feel even worse because surely in a normal person it would work?). He’s already worried because he knows I’m not sleeping and the last thing on earth I want is for this to affect my relationship with him!

Help!

You could try pranayama and some meditation.
Do you have experience of this?

Dear keeley, take a deep breath and remember that you are not alone in this world. I assume that on top of everything you are adjusting to a new environment as well. First, seeking the familiarity of a yoga routine is a good idea, and frankly I think that any yoga practice is good for you, no need to ask for specific asanas. One suggestion could be to set a goal for yourself to do yoga every evening at a certain hour and for a specified amount of time. Not too long, as it might be overwhelming. maybe 30 minutes or just 20 or 10. Then do whatever asanas or meditation you feel you can do. If you have ever done a headstand, that would be highly recommendable though. Maybe you can do it against a wall, for more stability and safety.
Second, I think that you need to shift your focus away from this woman who is clearly feeding on your energy. You are not insane or abnormal at all, you are just weakened right now. You need to take care that you don’t loose more of your energy to someone or something that isn’t giving anything back to you. I think that your boyfriend’s advise to “not think about it” - strange as it may seem - is sort of in the right direction. But of course it is easier said than done.
Finally, if you feel that you need spiritual guidance, seek it from a professional. I mean go find a minister, monk, rabbi or whatever kind of spiritual leader can be found where you live. Speaking out loud about your worries may do wonders.

Om shanti