do understand what many eastern philosophies are trying to achieve… but there is another option. When suffering comes along, you can use the opportunity to become a stronger person. You can be an adult and except the hardships of life, and not have such unrealistically high expectations that everything should go exactly how I want it to go.
This is pretty much what these Eastern philosophies teach. Have no expectations, act without expectations. In Hinduism it is called Nishkama karma(dispassionate action) and in Zen Buddhism, Wu-wei(actionless action) Another practice is meditation, whereby one always remains in an equanimous state, indifferent to both pain and pleasure.
But is it easy in practice? Hell no. It is practically impossible to not have expectations. If I want to land a job I really like, I cannot help myself but expect that I get it. If I am with my partner, I cannot help myself but expect that they remain faithful to me. We expect things all the time, sometimes without even realising it. When expectations are not met they lead to disappointments, and then frustration and anger.
Similarly, it is practically impossible to remain in an eqaunimous state. All it takes is one wrong glance from a stranger on the street to disturb it and throw one into anxiety. One rude occurence is enough to produce anger. Getting a disease can ruin peoples lives.
This is why the practice of Yoga was invented in order to develop these skills of living without expectations and living equanimously, in addition to living healthy.
The practice of Yama and Niyama cultivate a balanced ethical life. The practice of Asana improve circulation and flexibility. The practice of Pranayama improves the use of energy in he body. Pratyahara improves one centre. Dharana improves ones ability to concentrate and apply themselves. Dhyana improves ones ability for equanimity, witnessing without reaction.
This is why Yoga is a complete system of body and mind management. Nothing needs to be improved. Rather, it is something that needs to be implemented.
Maybe Buddhism and Hinduism might have something to offer for people experiencing depression, but if you are happy, there’s little value. Hang around with happy people. You may learn that there is a whole different way of living that is free of any strict rules or philosophies, yet is still completely satisfactory.
What you are referring to as happiness is simutaneously sorrow. It is an unstable happiness that depends upon circumstances and people. Tomorrow, if your circumstances changed and the people you love were not there, what you call happiness will quickly turn into sorrow.
As long as the roots remain for suffering, suffering will keep returning. If you experience anger, fear, lust, jealousy, anxiety at any point in your day, then the roots of these impurities remain. As long as they remain they will keep you in the bondage of suffering. If you feel the need to be violent against another person(such as you intimated towards me) you are suffering.
The good news is there is a solution to suffering and that is Yoga. It will deal with physical suffering, mental and emotional suffering and spiritual suffering.
I’m not against Hinduism and Buddhism, and if you feel that your life is missing something, or you don’t feel happy in general, and if eastern philosophy tends to help, than absolutely go for it, and I genuinely hope you do get a lot of benefit from it.
I experience a lot of suffering. At the moment I am experiencing physical suffering because of the health problems I have recently contracted. I have throughout my life suffered a lot of anxiety, especially beginning from the age of 16. Although today this has lessened to a large extent, the roots still remain and can manifest from time to time. The greatest suffering I experience though is spiritual - existential crisis - the need to find out who I am. This one is a real killer, because you experience soul pain.
The only remedy for soul pain is Yoga. This is my next stop.