Controlling Sexual Desire with Yoga

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#12

Hello Albert and Peace,

You are both right, or both wrong. :wink: After the USA, Ireland and Australia my country is now rocked by sexual scandals within the Catholic church. In the last two weeks alone, over 600 people have come forward with shocking stories about their childhood. They have been sexually molested, harassed and even raped by “celibate” priests. The very people who were supposed to take care of them in their most vulnerable years. Many lives have been damaged. On this forum, we have discussed bramacharya over and over. I would just like to add that its strict interpretation as “celibacy” carries a huge risk. The one I mention here.

#13

IT’s tough one but it can be done though.They say even Budhha nearly fell short of enlightenment because this was his last obstace. If you keep on practicing you can conquer sexual desire and it will no longer being your mind.

Bramarcharya and celibacy in my view are unrelated.The latter is a lifestyle choice, choosing to abstain from sexual relations with …well…other people, and the former is what some other poster i think described elsewhere as something like wise use of our energies.How we wisely use our energies, including the sexual, should’nt depend on being celibate or not.I guess the thing with celibacy is that if it is an enforced rule which is dictating how we live, then it’s not liberating us.I think you can use sexual relations for spiritual advancement but you need to do alot of purification and practice before you get the hang of it.

Practice yoga sincerely regularly without expectation of reward and you’ll be fine.

When Mother Kundalini stirs you’ll be getting all the sex you’ll ever want. It’ll be going on right inside your nervous system.No one else needed. Although i hear the energies can subside after a while . What i do know from my own experience , yes that is perfectly possible- conquering sexual desire- as long as you’re engaged in practice…The main thing is not to fixate on it. It’s not about- do i have a girlfriend or not?-Am i getting enough sex? It’s not about sex or gf’s.Bramacharya is useful though not related.

Much can be achieved with the mind alone.The desire for sex originates with those thoughts in the mind- lust etc. If you can conquer at here at it’s source, to me that sound’s something akin to Bramacharya or should i say it’s mastery.So therefore not much to do with celibacy- the concept is therefore an enforced distraction and could be one way to delude yourself- a danger as willem mentions .

Just some thoughts.

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#14

The state of desirelessness can only be achieved with the help of ascetism according to Tantra Yoga and the paradox of Tantra Yoga is that an individual should have a strong desire to culminate to a state of desirelessness.

#15

If you wish to sublimate sexual energy, practice urdhvareta yoga

#16

If you wish to sublimate sexual energy, practice urdhvareta yoga.

#17

First let me say that there is a difference between theory and personal experience.

so yoga and sex, and catholic priests.
from my readings, a point of tantra and other limbs of yoga, is to move energy around. In tantra moving the sexual energy upward for a higher purpose, moving this energy from the lower chakras to higher ones.

so from that theory, or one similar, celibate people may run into problems, priests included. If someone decides to become celibate, the sexual energy is still there. SO the energy has two main places to go, one is out through the penis, another is up the channels into higher chakras. if one does nothing with this energy it sits there, sexual energy builds and builds, and desires an outlet. again, out through the penis, or up into the rest of the body.

Priests and other celibates who try to repress desires may run into problem because that energy stays there in the sex organ till it becomes so great that they feel they must release it somehow. also as they have taken a vow they may feel shame. So… add sexual desire plus guilt/shame and you have some unhealthy things going on. Put these two together and this is one possible way a celibate turns into a predator.

so if one decides to be celibate, it may be wise to figure out how to move this energy, for it is the energy of creation.
best to you
Brother Neil

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#18

justwannabe explained that very well!

#19

thanks Yohomieyogi

#20

Well future king ill just say you to practice the Vajroli mudra ,it can transform sexual energy to spiritual energy even the hoseholder who practices it can attain sidhies(perfections). Find a place to learn it. Some of the posts above are just opinions of others not the solution if you know what you want Y not go for it.

#21

One can control Sexul desire from Yoga and Meditation but it requires lots of lots patience and proper guidance.

#22

[quote=premeet01245;30513]I also want to do this.[/quote]That’s good to hear but I cannot help you, but someone else may put forward so more good ideas to help you and I.
It makes me sick to see Hollywood kind of love and sex as it is corrupting the minds of people world wide because everyone watches American trash movies.

#23

I’ll speak from my direct experience:
After many years of practicing yoga, and then teaching it, I decided to become a Swami. I was happy to renounce sex and marriage because I had many girlfriends, and had never found happiness or peace in that way.
After some time in training, I met my now wife there - at the ashram.
We all have different paths. Mine was not - yet anyway! - intended to be celibacy.

FutureKing - I applaud your intentions. I wish you all the best in your quest for justice in India. But I advise you this: concentrate not on trying to change the outside world. Focus inwards. Only when you are perfectly purified, and there is no possibility of violence or hatred or injustice WITHIN you… then the world around you will change more than it would if you spent 1000 lifetimes [B]trying[/B] to change it.
Your greatest politician said it the best:
“you must be the change you wish to see in the world”.
In my experience, if you find the right woman / partner, it helps more than hinders.
We are animals also, not only spiritual beings, and we have material needs. Hundreds of millions of years of evolutionary programming cannot be denied.
Good luck!
Ben

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#24

I can understand the not wanting to get married part but no sex I don’t understand. :confused:

I saw 2Girls1Cup on the internet somewhere once and it cured me of sex for quite a while. You should look into that, I’m sure it would help.

#25

[QUOTE=Lencho…;30679]I can understand the not wanting to get married part but no sex I don’t understand. :confused:

Well…Indian society is not so open in terms of sex like the western countries.

In much larger scale than western countries, in India sex comes only when you are married. Maybe this is the reason for no sex and no marriage.

Also, with no sex…the sexual energy can be transformed into Ojas…a spiritual energy that can benefit in this hard task.

#26

Suppression and denial of yoga sex improvements can lead only to physical upsets and mental harm.

#27

God in Bhagavad Gita recommends 4 stages in life according to the age. Next to Brahmacharya is the Gruhasta, which is very vital for a man. Only here he gets the mental maturity. In this Kali yuga it is very tough to remain as Brahmacharya. And God appreciates a house holder who follows Dharma. So get married soon and serve the nation.

#28

[quote=Evelynlexo;31184]Suppression and denial of yoga sex improvements can lead only to physical upsets and mental harm.

http://yogaspot.wordpress.com/2010/03/22/yoga-and-sex-do-go-together/[/quote] Oh yes? …well those people that run that web site think they know everything about sex. :stuck_out_tongue:

#29

Well…:smiley: Thought of discussing about this 2-3 days back itself…but stopped…thinking that some innocent members :stuck_out_tongue: might get embarassed…:smiley:

In my previous posts, in some other thread…I told that from past 9 months I am practicing Praanayama,Bhastvik, Naadi Pranayaama, Sudarshan Kriya etc…and getting some sensations in forehead & lowerback…so a couple of members put it as Ajna,Kundalini awakening…

Now the thing I am observing is…from the past 6-7 months or so…I am having a high sexual urge…( I am unmarried )…doesnt mean that previously I didnt have any sexual urge but ever since I started all the above said practices…the urge has been High…previously it wasnt to this extent…

I may sound stupid :stuck_out_tongue: to link each and every thing to the practices, awakening … But is this sudden high sexual urge due to the practices or any chakra awakening…as the fact is before ( the practices ) I didnt have this much of urges…and I thought yoga practices subsides/controls the urges…I am confused…:confused:

#30

well if you are getting the body in better shape, it would make sense that it would tend to act more naturally, more lively so to speak.

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#31

Yoga also improves orgasm. Orgasm involves rapid contractions of the pelvic floor muscles that run between the legs. In Western medicine, Kegel exercises strengthen these muscles and intensify orgasm. (To do Kegels, contract and relax the muscles that squeeze out the last drops of urine.) In yoga, the pelvic floor muscles are known as moola bandha. Yoga strengthens them, providing benefits similar to Kegel exercises.

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