[QUOTE=Surya Deva;40143]Chamssou15,
About 10 years ago I posted on an internet forum just like you did saying that I wanted to commit suicide and I needed help. When each person tried to offer me help and told their own stories of pain and suffering, instead of accepting their help and thaking them for it, I simpy argued with them. I said, “You cannot understand my pain, and what I have been through” The discussion simply turned into a discussion where I was trying to convince others how bad my life was and how I had tried everything already to fix it(I hadn’t really) Very much like this one has turned into.
Do you want to focus on your problems, or do you want solutions? We already know your life is in a bad state, there is no need to keep on telling us this.
If you genuinely want help from this forum you need to stop thinking of your problem, and start looking at solutions. So far the following has been suggested to you:
- Get counselling
- See your local religious leader
- My self development plan
I am going to suggest another one to you. Leave your home and go to a monestary/ashram and live a spiritual/religious life.
Lets be clear about the facts here you are 35 year old male virgin, with no qualifications, no friends, poverty and alone. Your life is in a very bad state, and all you can worry about is sex? You are not going get any women with a life like this. Like I said your only option as far as sex is concerned is to masturbate or pay for sex.
So you need to rebuild your life and only you can choose to do this. I will reiterate one possible solution on how you can do this.
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Go to your local counsellor or religious leader/priest/imam/guru and tell them about your problems and listen to their advice.
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Then start to work on the self development plan, developing each stage:
SOCIAL: Talk to people on the street, smile and say hi and then string up a conversation, “Hi, how are you” Go to your local community centre, join same interest clubs/social activities, find out about which local events are on and go there and meet people. This will gradually build your social network. Go out for a walk everyday 1-2 hours.
PHYSICAL: Join up at your local gym(also a place to meet people) and start up a routine made up of cardio + weight training. Eat healthy. Train 3-4 week times a week for an hour. If no gym, do it at home.
EMOTIONAL: Find a hobby/interest you enjoy such as drawing, writing, music. Practice 1-2 hours a day.
MENTAL: Read literature, fiction and non fiction books, poetry, science, philosophy, art. Go to your local bookshop and get yourself a book to read. Read 1-2 hours a day.
SPIRITUAL: Yoga and meditation. Wake up early in the morning and do some Yoga followed by meditation/pranayama. Make this a fixed time. This is your time to simply focus on your spirit. Do this for 1-2 hours. Then read some spiritual literature. Then at night do another meditation before you go to sleep for 15-30 min. Try to keep this time fixed as well.[/QUOTE]
i reconize your gently but i have 10000000 per cent when i said you cant contain the probelm if you have no idea about things how goes in my country ? the condition arround us they comand our destiny if we dont take offf …immagine for example u live in KSA , u have no right to see ,speak with ur cousin ,so to have fun , to try to find love forget it , mariage is often arranged so u got a lot of frustration , thant mean the law and custom build up ur life there is f… impact if u hate it or love it …
Now im gonna give you more things to poor that ur making projection about what ur know in western culture …
I hate religion but u push me to see religion man imam , priest balblabla ,if u go from example to see imam he said to u it forbiden u should to repent and stay virgin intil mariage ven he know that many algerian get old without mariage …( i dont repat things becoz may be i lose control and become indeed rude , becoz u seem dont folllow me …)
go to see priest ,hahha there is not in algeria but imagine ,i go to somone i said blablabla after he will said to me my son ur benedicted by god ,he sign ridiculous check to go to the paradise , i think religion not my trick …
You said to me leave ur country , and u think ur in UKL or usa or france …here u cant leave as u choose do u really think im stupid to ths point thant i admlit to stay in F…village ? u should to be intelligent …its better thant acuse without any lbasic logik.
i hang out pratically in the most rich country in algeria ,but i found my self like slave ,with quarter of querter of querter of dollars ( 200da) that equal one meal , and not the price of one night in the hotel …
I felt my self more alone in big city ,algerian women are rubishh …plenty of hypocrisie and frustration ,the neborhor made them obviusouly they have no chance but my life is more precioious and i try automatically to save her …and dont want to stay when rules of soci?tey treat my aims …
The goverement dont give visa , the single way to have it is t o married , and wesrten people have another vison about mariage , its not sacred ,so alla the poor algerian could find its oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooold women ugly to salve it again becoz she know he have no choice ,so that add for him more humiliation …western country are matriacal system …women says no iand yes but in 99 per cent she said no …
Have you ever see playboy morrocain or tunisian or morrocain in italy france Uk usa ,siwss zerland walking with his wife wich have the age of his grand mother ? i guess no if im based on your things written …
Social /// talk with people in strret ? are you crazy or what ,? women here they have not courage to speak in virtual so in real ,its really danger …
U speak like child who try to discover this jungle , what that mean smile , say god morning ,blblbla …? the people have their own distance , here if there is marialis interest even ur nothing u became important ,
I speak 3 language so that mean i acces to 3 cultures , but the comon thing in western people espically the anglophone they are fearful about forigner …i partcipated since 2 years in webstie when there 1 million of persone speaking in mic and webcam ,and i was despoited no culture no good behave ,n and when u try to apprach them ==== they answer u shut F…Up …? is this ur education in western countries ?
Im like miror if ur sympathic u will receive my best but if ur stupid and rough u will receive the bad things from me , so u have to choose…
Pyschical …chapiter , so i still like sport i joind two club ,but in the club no shower no clean no people of my age there is only 3 or 4 personne in the session where i am registred ,if for example u practsiue jkarat? aikido and accidenteny u broke ur neck u have no security social , and is not hygicnic at all when we worked out there is toeilt smelly full of piss and shiit ? so u try to be healthy and u put ur self in danger …chose in my place ur more smart than me …
I pracatsied body building during 12 years ago , all i added is not mausvcle but chronic painful kness and artculations …i have no money to see good doctor and to pass IRM radiopghaic . you choose in my place again …what u gonna do
emotioanal = hobby ? my hobbie is to take off from here but i cant i dont want to repat i said the reason 10000000000000000000000 times so if u try to be gently u should to focus about evry details i give.
Mental = all i d o is vaiguate on interent but i have question for u ? people they dont give shiiii… about culture , why ? why for example in youtub or daily …when its doctor talking you find 20 or 40 or 1000 viewer depend the subject , but when its chicks saying nothing and showing his teddy bear for example you find 1000000000000 viewer , could u tell me if u can share intelligent things with those 100000000000 kinks of viwers who dont want to learn but to fulfill desire ? i think u will fail to speak gd things with theme ,u should rather speak shhiiiiii…that what they want to hear , thatcatch their atten,tion if u need atten,tion .
situral , yoga is anoyaing , espacilly with my probelm of join ,i practise yoga but my mind is cabled with the same probelm ,i do karat? , but my mind is calbled ,i go shopping but my mind thinkngs about failure , i speak with anyed stupid S but my mind feel hurt and woinder why i havent right to find better , …i m swiming but in deepp of water my mind cant stop to feel pain of failure , i sitt near the sea …but my mind is fulled of anger why i cant accros this F …medieterianinan ??? …etc
