I don’t know if this particular question fits in this header, My sincere apologies if iam wrong section.
I have a problem, i feel like having sex and end up mastrubating daily default, i am student and i have lot work to do. I am not able to concentrate and pay as much attention that i am suppose to. I know i am going on wrong paths, and i feel guilty. My thinking power and memory has reduced. So is there some yogic practices that i can do? which can get me out of this catastrophy?
Dear, dear Sam,
[U]First and foremost:[/U] You are not going on any wrong path here and you do not have to feel guilty at all. It is perfectly fine if you feel like masturbating every day. Try to accept it. Don’t let anyone tell you that what you are doing is wrong, impure, or bad for your health. There are a lot of beliefs out there about lifestyle, how one should live life, what one should do and what not to do. There are also a lot of beliefs about sex, masturbation, the losing or accumulating of sexual energy and what not.
I say: [I]Screw those beliefs[/I], literally or not, [B]all is fine[/B]. We are all made insecure by what other people say and we are all made to feel guilty about what we do, our pleasures, our tendencies, our habits. There cannot be real transformation if there is no acceptance for what we are [U]completely[/U]. So please don’t belief anything you hear about masturbation, sex etc. on behalf of others.
Now if you yourself experience that you are not able to concentrate and pay as much attention as you used to, than that’s also something to be accepted. You cannot say for sure that the cause is your masturbating every day. Maybe the cause is your subconscious guilt and the discontentment with your lifestyle because you belief you are being wrong. Such a subconscious feeling/belief can confuse a man a lot and cause distraction and a less functional mind. One way or the other, there is no such thing is wrong. Everything is fine and perfect just the way it is. We just need to see this.
Only if you stop trying and wanting to change yourself, will you be able to change truly and peacefully. In harmony with body, mind and consciousness.
So my dear friend, before asking for any yogic practice to change who you are, open your eyes and see that there is no catastrophe at hand and that you made yourself to believe you are living wrongly. Then as you witness this, try to embrace it and accept your tendencies, desires and actions [I]as they are[/I].
[U]Something for you to experiment with:[/U] Whenever the urge, the desire for sex or masturbation arises within your mind and body, just do nothing for a few mintues and observe your thoughts and feelings. Become aware of your desire to have sex and just allow this desire to be there as it is, without suppressing it and without masturbating or having sex right away. Also observe the beliefs that arise about that desire, for example: “I don’t want to desire for masturbation so much,” or: “It is wrong to masturbate so often,” or any other thought/belief that might pop up as the desire runs through your body and mind. Just stop like this, observing, for about five minutes every time you feel the desire, before you do anything.
Now either you will still feel the desire after these five minutes of observing, or you won’t feel the desire anymore. Both are fine. the goal is [I]not[/I] to get rid of the desire or the act of masturbation. The goal is purely to gain understanding, peace and insight into yourself. So if after these five minutes you still decide to masturbate, than please don’t feel like; “Oh now I failed and I am bad.” because again: the goal is not to stop masturbating, the goal is to be more at peace with yourself and to love yourself completely as you are. Because only from this unity with yourself, only by embracing all that you are, will your actions and feelings change for the better, [I]naturally.[/I]
Love,
Bentinho
Sams,
There is no benefit in doing something, choosing something, then having remorse over it. That is actually placing a negative on top of a negative.
In the practice of yoga some of us strive to make more mindful choices - choices about what we say, what we eat, what we do to earn a living, and of course behaviors we select. This is a process and therefore it is refined over time.
There are not, however, any yogic “tricks” for the specific issue you mention. Yours is merely a response to the craving and desire to satiate or appease the senses. There are many activities which are not sexual in nature that fit this construct.
If you are interested further then I’d advise finding a teacher who can teach you about the vital force (pelvic) and how to transform it in the heart center. This is not mutually inclusive with yoga as there are many practitioners stoking that force for their own satisfaction (rather than that of their soul).
gordon
I tested the 6th rite of the Five Tibetan Rites to see if it did what it said , and it did, immediately and without a doubt as to the cause. This is very like uddiyana bandha with the exception being that you bend at the waist 90*. I only know this much about that. I have no other thing to add but that according to the literature and my own subjective experience, various postures, especially uddiyana bandha, will redirect sexual energy from the bottom chakra higher. In fact, for some, that is the main purpose of yoga. Namaste
[QUOTE=TonyTamer;21141]I tested the 6th rite of the Five Tibetan Rites to see if it did what it said , and it did, immediately and without a doubt as to the cause. This is very like uddiyana bandha with the exception being that you bend at the waist 90*. I only know this much about that. I have no other thing to add but that according to the literature and my own subjective experience, various postures, especially uddiyana bandha, will redirect sexual energy from the bottom chakra higher. In fact, for some, that is the main purpose of yoga. Namaste[/QUOTE]
I was glad that TonyTamer mentioned the chakras. Perhaps you can find a chakra balancing class or ask your yoga instructors where you can find one. It’s not a bad thing that you self pleasure - it just seems that if you found some other ways to direct some of that energy, you would feel more in control or more satisfied.
Good advises so far. Let me add my thoughts.
First, the OP does not feel quilt because masturbation, but because he experiences a vitality loss. To state that his quilt is caused by an unadmitted prejudice towards masturbation is questionable. Materialist biology says there are no related ill effects, and this became common, so after the sexual revolution, those who dare to suppose that masturbation could be harmful, are stoned as conservatives. On the other hand, yoga, tantric practices, taoism for long has been teaching preservation of semen. We need to balance a totally forgiving and a totally opposing attitude. It is clear that for a person suffering with high blood pressure and advanced arterial sclerosis, any sexual activity might provoke a stroke. Sexual activity is stressful. What for a healthy person is exercise, for a weakened body might prove harmful.
In this case, we have a young man, who probably spends a lot of time in front of a computer, in a depleting artificial environment, where also there is a huge amount of temptation present. Now, if he were not specific about it, we might say: he is a young male with extraordinary vitality, who does not succed in directing his sexual energies into more fulfilling sexual habits. I know, in these politically correct times, it might seem judgemental, but many would agree that making love to a woman can be more fulfilling than masturbation. If not, we need to seek for causes. Like lack of social skills, confidence, or presence of an artificial substitute like porn.
From his post, I get the message that he is exhausted, and he identifies the cause of his exhaustion with masturbation. Being exhausted makes one prone to adrenalin rising stimulents, and masturbation can be such an activity. Overusing it can drain ones’s adrenal glands. The fact that young people seem to have unlimited amounts of energy does not mean they are unlimited, just that they are hard to deplete. When other factors also contribute, than masturbation can be harmful. Ever questioned why the sexual drive is weak or nonexistent in sick people ? Or why some athletes practice abstinence before difficult athletic trials ? Thus, we need to give credit to the man.
Question: what masturbation substitutes in his case ? Why is he trapped in this activity ? Because this is what he feels.
To state the obvious: if he could manage to include into his routines healthy phyisical activies, like going to a gym, or playing some game, and lessen the time spent working, his life would be balanced.
Most probably, masturbation is not the main cauase of his exhaustion, rather it is a symptom. While generally we cannot condemn masturbation, we can question why it becomes an addiction.
Animals in captivity are know to practice masturbation. What are the walls of his captivity ?
Hi Ppl,
I got various veiws of people, First i would like to thank all of you for posting their veiws and i appreciate your time. Please tell me simple methods to concentrate. I know meditation is really far ahead for me, i need to build to reach the same. I know it is proven that a person who can concentrate and meditate can achieve any thing in his life. So please post methods for same.
Thanking you in advance.
Just do it. Than, of course you will meet obstacles. Asess them, and work to overcome them. To meditate, it is not hard. What is hard is to overcome it’s obstacles.
In your case, the need for excitement of your mind. (Excitement of any kind)
It is an error to think that the body is what makes one to overeat, or have too much sexual activity. No, the body is innocent, the mind is the culprit.
Hi,
Is there a step wise book that i can follow to do meditate?
The difficult thing is to just keep doing it regularly, the fundamental steps are ez, and there are many books everywhere and on the internet : basically keep your spine straight, sit on sit bones,breathe deep and slow, quieter and quieter, be very still, close your eyes, focus between the eyebrows and either do a simple mantra like OM with the breath, at first audibly then silently, or just listen to your breath, don’t fight thoughts but don’t hold on to them either, go back to breath or mantra, you can also ask yourself " Who is asking this question ? ". Many ways , all basically just sitting still,relaxed and alert. Start with 5 minutes and work up to at least 20. you can do it morning and/or evening. Namaste
[QUOTE=sams25;21638]Hi Ppl,
I got various veiws of people, First i would like to thank all of you for posting their veiws and i appreciate your time. Please tell me simple methods to concentrate. I know meditation is really far ahead for me, i need to build to reach the same. I know it is proven that a person who can concentrate and meditate can achieve any thing in his life. So please post methods for same.
Thanking you in advance.[/QUOTE]
Basketball.
You said the magic word there,Christopher. It’s the only thing that rivals yoga in my life and I’d still be playing if I didn’t have a double herniated disk,probably caused by too much basketball. I quit at age 50 and at that point I was incorporating breath control into my outside jumpers and the effects were fantastic, I almost couldn’t miss and added significantly to my range. The rythmn of the dribbled beat was flowing more and more like dance and the ’ concentration ’ was making it so alive for me. I’m sure you intended the meaning of your answer to be that many things can be done as concentration exercises- and that’s very true- mindfully done often enough. Probably the classic candle-staring,mantra chanting, traditional things are what most people will be able to bring into their lives. It takes a good back to shoot jumpers. Thanks for saying the magic word-Namaste
Tony,
It seems that you and I have struck a chord. Personally I stopped playing in my thirties, but as a youth, it was everyday after school.
You’re right about my intent to a certain point. I think that basketball is an excellent way to practice concentration. Just shooting hoops and dribbling is good. Getting into a game with some other guys is better. And if basketball isn’t your cup of tea, there are lots of other fun activities that will yield similar results.
More importantly, I think that Sam needs to engage in action more than in sitting concentration or meditation exercises. His problem seems to indicate some tamsic tendencies. Tamas is overcome by rajas, or action.
I hadn’t thought about that but it makes sense to me. RoundBall Forever.
Amen, brother.
he is a student is he satisfied with this let him do if you try to stop this it will also make problem with his studies sex is nothing a feeling of mind & secration of nerves for few seconds ,just change your food habits no drinks, only veg fish will do and do concentration for 30 min that will solve your problem
[QUOTE=sams25;20953]I don’t know if this particular question fits in this header, My sincere apologies if iam wrong section.
I have a problem, i feel like having sex and end up mastrubating daily default, i am student and i have lot work to do. I am not able to concentrate and pay as much attention that i am suppose to. I know i am going on wrong paths, and i feel guilty. My thinking power and memory has reduced. So is there some yogic practices that i can do? which can get me out of this catastrophy?[/QUOTE]
Dear Friend this is not your problem its natural its your body system or circustances i m not aware of all this things do it if you really enjoy this but take care not more than one times in a day & also change ur food habit no drink ,only veg & do concentartion for 30 min you see that within few days its normal if possible you play any sports you like.
Sorry InnerAthlete its by mistake
Get a girlfriend.